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How to
Rekindle a Romance
in Five Minutes a Day
By Dr. Kevin Polk
Life is all about the goals we set and how we spend
our time on those goals.
Marriage is a really big goal. We often speak of getting married as
a goal itself, which is true, but we all know the real work on the
goal starts after the vows are stated. The vows are goals that you
need to spend time on in the marriage.
Most vows include something to do with "I will love and
cherish" This vow should probably also read, "and I will
spend time showing you how I love and cherish you." Most of us
have the 'Love and Cherish' part down; it's the showing part that we
forget.
 Put
some time for your spouse on your schedule
Since showing your spouse that you love and cherish him or her is a
very, very important thing to do, it is worthy of putting it into your
daily schedule. Never mind about the "it wont be
spontaneous" argument. You can schedule and remind yourself to
show that you care AND be spontaneous at other times. Just choose a
time of day that you know you can talk to your spouse. Then remind
yourself to say some nice things at that time. Maybe you can put
something unusual out on the table to remind you, or even set an alarm
to go off at that time, just find a way to remind yourself to do it.
Write down the
things that you find attractive
about your spouse
Now that you have scheduled time to show that you care you will need
some things to say. Sit down by yourself with a pen and paper and
write down the reasons that you liked your spouse when you were
courting. What did you find attractive? What did you find sexy? Just
write down the things about him or her that made you feel good and
made you want to be with this person for the rest of your life. We all
just love hearing this stuff over and over again.
So now you have the time set aside, reminders in place, and some
things to say. Now go ahead and say them! Don't worry about your
spouse asking what you are up to. Just say you read this article and
you have been spending at least five minutes a day remembering the
reasons you fell in love with him or her, and how those things still
apply now. Tell your spouse how you plan to show your love every day
at this time. Chances are he or she will think this is a great way for
you to spend your time.
Dr. Kevin Polk: Family Man, Goal and Time Management
Coach, Speaker, Writer and Psychologist. Drop me a line at
doc@timedoctor.com, or
stop by http://www.timedoctor.com.
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