Sometimes love
"hurts", here's five ways to take the opportunity.
There are so many different types and phases
of love. There's the brutal but heart-stopping love of teenagers;
the new and fresh "lifetime" love of newlyweds; the solid
and quiet love of "olderweds"; the love we have for our
children, pets, relatives, the world, the community, our country
etc. But one thing is universal about ALL of these loves. At some
point in time, they hurt.
1. Take the opportunity to identify your love.
What category does your love fall into? When dealing with pain or
hurt, it helps to know which ground you're standing on.
2. Take the opportunity to face your love.
What about it hurts? Were you let down? Was the love unrequited? Did
the love run out? Did your love die? Knowing exactly what it is that
your love did, or that you did to your love, helps to identify the
problems so that the problems can be worked through.
3. Take the opportunity to ask tough
questions. What about this relationship did you love? For instance,
if you feel your child is letting you down, are you more attached to
being your child's "authority figure" then you are to
being your child's champion? It takes two to tango which dance
partner are you?
4. Take the opportunity to take a break.
Sometimes being alone with our thoughts is all it takes to help us
to come to conclusions regarding our "selves." Take a
weekend away; take only yourself.
5. Take the opportunity to be wrong or right.
It doesn't really matter does it? If you're in disagreement over
your love, does it matter if you're right or wrong? What really
matters is finding a way to work it out so that the relationship
with (your dog, relative, country, husband, daughter, neighbor) can
be resolved and from the resolve, grow.
Love hurts. It also is unmatched when it's at
it's best. Find your way to make it work.
E-mail: jenette@focusedlives.com
Author's URL: http://www.focusedlives.com
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